New Docu-Series “Love In The City” Coming To ‘OWN’ April 12th (VIDEO)!

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LEFT: Chenoa Maxwell (actress & photographer), Tiffany Jones (founder of PinkChoseMe), Bershan Shaw (founder of social networking site URAWARRIOR.com) RIGHT: Kiyah Wright (celebrity stylist)

There’s a new — substantive docu-series premiering on OWN (Oprah Winfrey’s Network) on April 12th. The YBF.com labeled the upcoming docu-series as the black woman version of “Sex In The City.”  The show centers on four friends of more than a decade, who are professional working women of color in New York City. Through the group’s adventures, misadventures, romances, successes and life-altering struggles, they may not always see eye-to-eye, but when push comes to shove, they are there for each other — with solid and unwavering support as they each face their own unique challenges and triumphs. Press Release…

It’s like OWN is giving us the SITC Fab-Ebony edition..lol. Will you be tuning in?? Watch the ladies in action below!

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5 Things Super Successful People Do Before 8 AM

Oprah Winfrey, Photo Credit: http://www.askdro.com

Rise and shine! Morning time just became your new best friend. Love it or hate it, utilizing the morning hours before work may be the key to a successful and healthy lifestyle. That’s right, early rising is a common trait found in many CEOs, government officials, and other influential people. Margaret Thatcher was up every day at 5 a.m.; Frank Lloyd Wright at 4 am and Robert Iger, the CEO of Disney wakes at 4:30am just to name a few. I know what you’re thinking – you do your best work at night. Not so fast. According to Inc. Magazine, morning people have been found to be more proactive and more productive. In addition, the health benefits for those with a life before work go on and on. Let’s explore 5 of the things successful people do before 8 am.

1. Exercise. I’ve said it once, I’ll say it again. Most people that work out daily, work out in the morning. Whether it’s a morning yoga session or a trip to the gym, exercising before work gives you a boost of energy for the day and that deserved sense of accomplishment. Anyone can tackle a pile of paperwork after 200 ab reps! Morning workouts also eliminate the possibility of flaking out on your cardio after a long day at work. Even if you aren’t bright eyed and bushy tailed at the thought of a 5 am jog, try waking up 15 minutes early for a quick bedside set of pushups or stretching. It’ll help wake up your body, and prep you for your day.

2. Map Out Your Day. Maximize your potential by mapping out your schedule for the day, as well as your goals and to dos. The morning is a good time for this as it is often one of the only quiet times a person gets throughout the day. The early hours foster easier reflection that helps when prioritizing your activities. They also allow for uninterrupted problem solving when trying to fit everything into your timetable. While scheduling, don’t forget about your mental health. Plan a 10 minute break after that stressful meeting for a quick walk around the block or a moment of meditation at your desk. Trying to eat healthy? Schedule a small window in the evening to pack a few nutritious snacks to bring to work the next day.

3. Eat a Healthy Breakfast. We all know that rush out the door with a cup of coffee and an empty stomach feeling. You sit down at your desk, and you’re already wondering how early that taco truck sets up camp outside your office. No good. Take that extra time in the morning to fuel your body for the tasks ahead of it. It will help keep you mind on what’s at hand and not your growling stomach. Not only is breakfast good for your physical health, it is also a good time to connect socially. Even five minutes of talking with your kids or spouse while eating a quick bowl of oatmeal can boost your spirits before heading out the door.

4. Visualization. These days we talk about our physical health ad nauseam, but sometimes our mental health gets overlooked. The morning is the perfect time to spend some quiet time inside your mind meditating or visualizing. Take a moment to visualize your day ahead of you, focusing on the successes you will have. Even just a minute of visualization and positive thinking can help improve your mood and outlook on your work load for the day. READ MORE…

My ‘OWN’ Introspective of OWN’s ‘Dark Girls’ Film

I feel asleep… and I didn’t get a chance to watch OWN’s ‘Dark Girls’ with everyone else, but I did watch it. I had even fathomed actually watching the program, to much apprehension, because I thought that it would only reiterate the ‘Colorism’ that I already knew existed, and a repeat would be annoying. It did in-fact repeat what I already knew, and thankfully it wasn’t annoying — while watching the program I smiled at some of the subject’s commentary professing love of their black skin, and for the other program subject’s commentary — I frowned and was embarrassed at some of their self-hatred.

Majority of the film was an introspection for Sabrina, most documentaries like this are. Fortunately, I’ve never known or heard of a “paper bag” test until an ignorant rapper named Young Berg made this term into a controversy… I never heard of it. I’ve never heard of the One-Drop Rule until Soledad O’Brien’s CNN’s Black In America brought it up (horrible program by the way).

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Me, My Mother and My Aunt @ the Stevie Wonder Concert

Was this a testament to the rearing of my mother, and beautiful siblings? — I’d like to think so — my butthead male cousins included, (as a kid they put raisins in my nose, cruel I know…lol). However the people in my family never made me or my sisters feel like were not beautiful.

My mother did somethings growing up; very few, that were attributed to her lack of knowledge. My mother tried to bleach my knees and elbows because they were really dark. Now it maybe, because I was a rough child, who fell and scraped every part of her body, but that was just my skin color, and mom tried to lighten them —  not my entire  body, but just those dark areas. Again, I have to say my mom never made us feel less than what we were… ‘beautiful’. I always thought my sisters were beautiful, If I never told them, “I’m sorry” and I’m telling them now… “You’ve always been beautiful to me.”

My sister Maria, with her innate ability to interact and engage with people, made her the most popular girl in school — I saw this and was amazed, my sister Tawanda, who was such

Mom & my sister Maria

Mom & my sister Maria

a pretty chocolate girl; however, I’m not sure she truly ever realized that. I also have another sister Sybal, who didn’t grow up with us, because she was adopted, but  re-entered the family. And she is a light-skinned version of my mother, very scary how they are twins. My sister Tawanda had two daughters (my nieces) one brown-skin like me (Taree) and (Jena); whom a troubled society would deem the typical light-skin good-hair child, but I had never saw anything other than my little apple-headed nieces, whom I enjoyed torturing as a kid…lol.

My family never saw the colorism that society projected, and I have my mother, siblings and my father’s family to thank for that.

In elementary school, I was never belittled for my skin color or called ugly, but I was given a nasty name among my classmates, in fact we were all given names, and before I tell you my class name — do know that it’s not for obvious derogatory reasons, because they told me why. It was ‘monkey’ — I poked my mouth out a lot, much like the animal would, hence ‘monkey’. Other classmate names — African-American as well, were given animal names like Cow; unfortunately for the obvious… Beaver, unfortunately for the obvious, and Chipmunk among others ;-P — we were just kids, acting like kids. I never felt any colorism, I did; however, notice the favoritism towards the light-skinned girl(s) in the class from the dark-skin boys, but it never made me feel inferior, I’m not sure why — I’ve always felt secure in my skin.

As I got older entering junior high and then in high-school, and I can’t ever recall a time that I ever felt insecure in my own skin, but as soon as I reached college (HBCU), my self-worth sky rocketed. As soon as I stepped foot on campus, all I heard about myself was beautiful and pretty, this enamored me, because I’ve never heard this from men or women back in Milwaukee. But as soon as I reached the Carolina’s, I’ve never felt so beautiful from my own people. Furthermore, the reason that I have ‘PRITLDY’ on my vehicle license plate(s) WI & NC, is not because I just wanted to be vain, but because, that’s what I was called on campus, that’s what it reminds me of. (Insert Smile)

I don’t know where else my secured behavior cultivated, but I’m happy to know I

Me & Mom leaving Hawai'i

Me & Mom leaving Hawai’i

fortunately didn’t have to experience the denigrated hate from my own people about my skin tone.  Do I consider myself a dark girl? no; brown girl; yes, African-American Girl — proudly. And at this very moment I can’t help but think of the VH1 Gossip Game episode, where a conversation between JasFly and the K.Foxx had me scratching my head. Admittedly, I initially frowned at the response from Jas, I got the impression she was disassociating herself from Black Women; HOWEVER, I should have known, and I feel like an ass now, to have not known, that this is reality t.v. and editing for a controversial-drama angle is rampant (read her blog and you will understand). Shouts to JasFly… I truly like her character and she represented well.

Family, I just love my black skin…. I truly do, and I do NOT want to trade it. Now… I do loathe some of the baggage that comes with being black in the 21st century (job searching, office politics, media portrayals etc.), but I don’t let it define who Sab [pronounced like ‘cab’, käb with an ‘S’] is. It wasn’t necessarily a journey for me, because I’ve never hated my black, but it was something that grew in self-assurance over time.

Would it be wrong of me to point out that I’ve experienced, and even laughed at others for their envy of “us”? Yes, some of them actually do envy us. Two True Examples.

Example 1) I made a trip home, and I was feeling myself one day…lol (we all have those days) and as I was walking toward and then passed a Caucasian woman who spotted my black beauty — that she had to take a double look (my peripherals saw this, and my eye-rolling reaction was spotted by a gentlemen, who laughed walking toward me) Why the eye roll? I felt like… “What? We can’t be beautiful”? …and you have to make sure that that’s what you really saw?.

Example 2) I was in a store recently…and I was talking to a Caucasian woman that had her daughter with her, and I heard the little girl (age 6-9 years old) say very softly that I was pretty to her; while her mom brushed it over and continued to talk to me, I heard the little girl say it again; however, I unfortunately ignored the little girl and continued to interact with her mother, because I knew it was making the mother uncomfortable to hear.

Soon I may be embarking on a promising potential career opportunity, that will allow me to lend my voice to a movement, which celebrates the beauty of African-American women, and I am ecstatic!!! I hope that I get it, because I want little black girls to feel like I do, I don’t want them to have to grow up, and have to figure out their natural beauty — I want them to know it now!

I’ve always felt like my ‘Black Is Beautiful’ and… it is. I don’t need OWN to tell me that, but what I did love about the program, was there was a CTA (call to action) portion of the film.

When the little girl said “black is not just a color, but it’s an essence of who you are, and who you will become.” I cried of happiness, because I love me, it’s intrinsic… and I’m so incredibly proud to know that she knows this too.

I commend OWN for its efforts of casting yet another light on Colorism, but I think there are still millions of black women who already know that their ‘black is beautiful’.

– Sab [pronounced like ‘cab’, käb with an ‘S’]

Black Skincare Trials

I’ve been in Charlotte for over a year now and my skin has exploded in ways that I have never experienced (not good) so I’m on this journey of trying to figure out the best ways to address my skin without going to an expensive dermatologist just yet. Recently I’ve decided to experiment with a few facial regimens, while incorporating my own — obviously not all at once…lol But I am going to start incorporating different trials for a few months to see how they work, because I want to get my skin back to what it was when I left Milwaukee. One of my major concerns when I came to Charlotte was the water here and how HARD it was on my skin. I’ve since washed my face with bottled water (yep..lol I have washed my face with bottled water for over a year), but today I decided to give the Atlantic Ocean water a try, while incorporating my facial regimen — I should call this Operation #ClTface …lol

The first thing I will STOP doing is pressing my iPhone on my face when I am on the phone. Touching my face during the day or resting my cell phone on my face while I’m talking….I’m just asking for acne trouble. I noticed that the breakouts and blemishes are mainly on the side that I talk  on my phone with! So I am done with that — I guarantee! (Can’t believe I didn’t notice this)

I started using the Banana, Honey, Lemon Facial Mask again. I’ve used this before, but never consistently and loved it! I will continue to use this 2-3x a week. This mask is great for hydration your skin and it’s also nice soothing facial mask. Bananas are good for feeding the skin nutrients and hydrates really well — Honey makes the skin very soft — while Lemons are said to be good for skin brightening and tightening. In NO WAY am I seeking to lighten my ski, because my black is beautiful #POW! But I am hoping that it will help alleviate the blemishes and give me a nice glow. As an option you can also try just the Honey & Lemon for a nice glow.

Why not proactive for my skin? I’ll have to give you that story another time…lol It should really be called RE-active…lol Moving on…

Recipe

 1 banana, preferably ripe (you can keep ripe bananas in the freezer. Let it thaw before using)
* 1 tbsp honey
* An orange or a lemon
Preparation:
Mix the banana and honey together.
Add a few drops of juice from an orange or a lemon.
Apply to face for 15 minutes before rinsing with a cool washcloth or a steaming warm washcloth or paper towel. 
this is good for oily complexion…leave out lemon or orange for normal to dry skin.

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NOTE: Also remember when you’re either washing and/or taking off the mask with a scrub preferably — wash off in the upward motion (place on in an upward motion), because the laws of gravity apply. You never want to pull the face down, because that highlights wrinkles and causes the skin to sag — we want our skin to look supple.

I’ll keep you updated!