NETWORKING TIP: Breached Basic Etiquette By Interrupting Others Conversation. {HOW TO MANEUVER THIS BASIC ETIQUETTE}

If two people are speaking, and you want to speak with one of those person’s, and it’s important, or in urgency — it just can’t wait, and you probably have to leave. Here are a few tips.

If you CANNOT make it quick

  • POLITELY STANDBY AND WAIT for them to finish talking, because they will see you in their peripheral. And being the professionals that they are, they will not monopolize each other’s time to network, and they will hasten their conversation for others.
    • They may feel pressured, but that’s not your concern, you’re there to get what you need to get.

…it’s that simple.

I seen this happen two times during my recent young professionals event, and one of them was ME. So what did I do? I burned a hole right through this young lady with my glare. And she introduced herself at the end of their conversation — I had no idea who she said her name was; nor did I care, because I needed to get back to my intended party.

WHY THE TIP? Because when someone interrupts your conversation, you feel annoyed primarily, but also disrespected. So PLEASE Don’t Do This. You only make yourself look bad.

WAS I UPSET? Heck no! (Don’t exert that energy) I was annoyed. But I said to myself, this is a teaching lesson, that I absolutely needed to blog about. 🙂


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Placing the Proverbial Foot Up My ‘Whoo-Hoo’: Networking Edition

This week was ripe with networking opportunities and they were great! I love traction. Check the tweets:

I met this contact @ the Coffee House Cafe in Dallas — it mind-as-well been Chicago to me (my suggestion) ;-); I wanted to be accommodating to my new contact. In addition, I am certainly open to exploring new venues to learn the city.

I met this contact at Paradise Bakery in Dallas — and he purposefully wanted to meet at this location. Why? Because it’s a networking, business professional mecca! So much so, that after our meeting — I stayed there and just took in the atmosphere w/ my laptop and Milwaukee friend (quite a few other Wisconsinites relocated here as well). And as soon as my Milwaukee friend walked in, someone approached him — mistaken identity.


My New Contacts STRONG TIES to Packer Nation is nostalgic

This new contact that I met was stellar — not only was he a Green Bay Packers fan, but he has STRONG ties to Packer Nation, Summerfest and Wisconsin! Great guy, and I look forward to getting to know him, and my new cultivating network here in Dallas. How I met this contact was via another contact that I met at After Work Network, after our conversation he suggested this new contact (this is how it works). My new contact suggested that I attend a job focus group — I did and it was stellar — he’s one of the break out group facilitators. The group gave me a wonderful first impression. Its structure, the friendly and helpful group members, the format in which they help you find job opportunities, and the venue was so welcoming. I’ll be back next week!

My Packers contact came to play!!

PACKERS CONTACT: “Do you have your resume?”

ME: “ahhh… No, not a tangible copy. I was hoping to just introduce myself to you, build a rapport.” “I didn’t come with the intent of asking you for a job, or asking you to place my resume in front of someone who can get me a job.”


PACKERS CONTACT: “…see that guy over there?” “…he’s was a CMO at XYZ Company, and now he’s running his own business.” “…don’t you think he’ll know someone in your field, and is also in a position to potentially place you in a role?”

ME: “ahh… yeah.”

PACKERS CONTACT: “…come on. get your business cards… I’m going to introduce you.”

ME: “ooh …okay.” GAME FACE ON

One CMO, CEO, CFO, and friendly staffers later …my business cards were gone.

My contact had introduced me to a few other people at Paradise Bakery. I had my business cards, but I didn’t come prepared to network on that level. I didn’t come prepared to network LIKE THAT! My contact certainly taught me a lesson in tactical and assertive networking, and to always be prepared. Lesson Learned

How to Ace a Lunch Meeting

I have a breakfast meeting tomorrow morning with a new contact in Dallas — that I’d like to build a relationship with and just like any meeting you want to prepare and and keep focused on the reason for the convene.

Lunch/Breakfast meetings can be a great way to build rapport with your contacts and prospects. But lunch meetings can also present a few pitfalls that you can and should avoid. Here are five tips to avoid awkward moments over lunch:

1.    Keep Your Eye on the Prize. Never forget that your objective is to build rapport, not just to enjoy a meal. Order something that allows you to eat and be social, but still be able to talk and present a polished image.

2.    Do Your Homework. If your lunch is important, investigate the restaurant in advance. Visit in person if you can or check out the website. You’ll get a feel for the layout, the dress code and the etiquette. Review the menu in advance to pick your meal. Then you can focus on being social instead of stressing over your order.

3.    Ask for help. Remember that servers are there to serve. Last week, I asked the server for a black napkin. I knew that the white napkins on all the tables would put unattractive white fuzz on my black suit. They found black napkins and I stayed neat. The same applies if you drop your fork, spill something or make some other mistake. Stay calm and ask the wait staff for what you need.

4.    Mind Your Manners. Yes, you should use the correct silverware and drink from the right glass. Even more important, remember that you are showcasing your character. Make sure to treat the wait staff (and everyone else) with respect.

5.    Handle accidents with grace. Everyone makes mistakes. If you make an embarrassing faux pas, move on without making a big deal. Or, if you really feel you need to address it, say “sorry” and then move on.  I was at a board meeting with some of the most influential professionals in my city when the president of an elite organization walked straight into a glass door. Hard. He kept moving. There was an awkward moment of silence, then everyone else moved on too. It’s not the end of Western civilization. Let it go.

Finally, have fun. Use these tips to avoid common pitfalls and you’ll have a great experience.

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Networking: Will you be in the 80 percent?

The role of networking plays a huge part in a person’s job search. Only two percent of today’s jobs are landed by utilizing online applications, while as much as 80 percent of today’s jobs are landed through networking. Being an accomplished and sincere networker can cut through the piles of job listings, decreasing your time to find that perfect opportunity by tenfold, not to mention the fact that the job you want may not be advertised at all.

Networking works simply because people do business primarily with people they know and like. It affords an opportunity to become acquainted in a no-pressure environment. In any social situation, chances are somebody in that room is within two degrees of knowing your next boss.

Over the last decade, the face-to-face fundamentals have been significantly enhanced with social media and by leveraging a personal marketing plan. That magic combination of personal interaction, implementing your personal marketing strategy and social media channels has made networking a science of establishing and maintaining a group of social and professional ambassadors.

To that end, here are some of those networking fundamentals to master to make the most effective use of the opportunities that come along in your job search:

Make a good impression during networking events

  1. Be authentic, considerate and sincere.
  2. Emit confidence.
  3. Be able to recite a 30-second introduction about yourself.
  4. Have a concise and effective personal business card to hand out.
  5. Improve your communication skills by role-playing with colleagues as practice beforehand.

Take advantage of a possible networking opportunity

  1. Be sure that your target(s) are the ones that will actually be able to help you.
  2. Have specific employer names and career goals established.
  3. Focus on building relationships.
  4. Always ask what you can do for others; networking is a give-and-take.
  5. Ask for advice, not a job.

Follow up after an event

  1. Prioritize your contacts in order of who can help you and who you can help.
  2. Tap into your strongest connections first.
  3. Map out what your specific communication will be with each contact on your priority list (phone call, email, social media, meeting, etc.).
  4. Schedule time with your most important contacts on an ongoing, regular basis.
  5. Make connecting a priority/habit and continually evaluate what avenues are working.

Article written by Rick Sears, an award-winning, globally recognized executive recruiter and career coach who leads Sterling Partners, one of the largest independent search firms in the nation. He is also CEO and president of Career Masters International, an organization dedicated to providing professional career readiness services to corporations and colleges.

6 Reasons Why I’ll Be Using Your Business Card As My Fingernail Cleaner – Then Trashing It

Business cards are the quintessential networking tool of commerce — the aesthetics of your card is someone’s first impression of you; giving a quick snapshot about who you are as an individual. Seemingly everyone’s objective is to make a good professional impression; however, the card design itself can sometimes get in the way of what you’re trying to represent. That’s not what we’re going to talk about today, we’re going to talk about the social etiquette surrounding how to successfully ‘network’ with your business card.

You Handed Me Your Business Card As If It Were An Event Flyer and Walked Away
Networking is the ‘exchange’ of information and services among individuals, not the dissemination of information or services to individuals. Cultivating a relationship during that exchange should be the objective.

You Introduced Yourself. Handed Me Your Card — Went Into the Sales Pitch About ‘You’
If you remember nothing else: people respond by you being genuinely interested in them — Dale Carnegie hit the nail right on the head with this. Talking ‘at’ someone, and not dialogue with that someone; quickly turns that exchange into an uncomfortable moment of ‘how can I exit this one-sided conversation?’

ADDED TIP: Exit by waiting for a pause, and then say “Thank you, it was good talking with you.” Whether or not it was an enjoyable experience, it’s courteous to thank them for their company.

You Scratched-Off With A Sharpie or/Pen — and Wrote On Your ‘Business Card’ the Correct Information, With No Explanation
I have absolutely no tolerance for scratched-off information on your business card, before you hit the ‘Submit For Print’ button from your card maker on-line; you should have meticulously viewed the erroneous on your card. It’s not professional, and it makes for an adverse impression of your said business…period. When you hand me your card — it should come with confidence, professional acumen and zeal, and not a sharpie mark.

You ‘Hit’ On Me
This can apply to men and women — we’re here to network, not romantically mingle. Understandably, if sparks do fly, that’s okay; however, now is not the time to act upon the lust of someone while at a networking event. You will come across creepy and less-reputable. Women already have the challenge of coming across as influential, poised and sound in a sometimes male dominated setting.

I Don’t Know Why I Have Your Business Card
Did I ask for your card? Or did you come up to me and start talking, and immediately handed me your business card? I have then walked away from the conversation not knowing — what purpose you will serve me, or how I can help you. You should only give your business card when asked for it — once this happens, it means that they are interested in you, your value and learning more about you.

You Left ‘My’ Business Card On the Table or Bar, After You Asked For It
We engaged, had a brief conversation, and then you ask me for my card — perfect! But you left my card behind — why’d you ask for it?

Getting someone’s business card is not necessarily protocol at networking events — you get someone’s card with the expectancy of engaging further in building rapport. Networking is not a sprint — it’s a marathon. Networking is also a contact sport, you should focus on giving, not getting.