Yesterday evening I attended an event at Pisces Sushi Bar & Lounge — the event dubbed #RoundTableDiscussion is a dialogue series where you have some of Charlotte’s sharp, passionate and most stylish people — who come together and dialogue about topics ranging in the realm of relationships, love and dating in Charlotte (Which is an extremely hot topic here) and dating will always be a hot topic. This was a fun time, fun because the ambiance was chic, the people where good looking and stylish, wine was flowing, sushi was rampant (not for me I don’t like seafood) and you never know what you’re going to learn when you come to one of these events. I’ve been in Charlotte for a little over a year (from Milwaukee) and I knew immediately that this was a hot topic — as it is in many metro cities of thriving young single-blacks.
“…some of Charlotte’s sharp, passionate and most stylish people.”
The event was hosted by Shanard Smith @DaBestDressed. Him and his team put a lot of detailed effort into this event — from the hashtag name-tags to addressing each attendee by name — adding that personable touch. The attendee make-up entailed 40 some people — ages ranging from late 20’s to early to mid-30’s. The topic of last night’s event was the “Independent Woman” — this is almost always synonymous with black women (le sigh).
The conversation delved into discussions on the problems that successful women endure when making a substantial salary, ranging from not finding a man on her “level” (I loathe this term), to finding a man that is comparable to her salary grade, but he’s very much promiscuous and not really into her as much OR the man that is into her, worships her entire being, but he’s making substantially less. This topic has been discussed quite often and I can tell you the conversation went everywhere, it got professionally heated — I inserted a few stink faces…lol at some perspectives, but it was a galvanizing conversation for the passionate person — not an event for the meek.
“…don’t give me the flowers and candy…get me some red bottoms.”
There comes a point where we have to say, so what’s the plan of action? Because this issue…yes this is an issue — that has been beaten up and I am TIRED of being the butt of the single black woman statistics jokes …well not me me, but you know what I mean. When I woman says “…don’t give me the flowers and candy…get me some red bottoms.” *insert stink face* Yes, this was an actual comment that I could not believe my ears. You don’t wonder why we’re stereotyped anymore, that’s why.
1) ..they are not red bottoms..they are Christian Louboutin’s!!!
2) …she has a right to have standards.
3) ..she’ll be single for a long while in Charlotte with that prerequisite
4) …she’s why I make the conscious decision to exert staying away from the numerous stereotype’s placed on us. ..I love sista’s who can just BE…BE different, and not “trying” to be and you feel that from her. (digressing)
I won’t turn this into a novelette — overall this was a fun professional chic event — filled with beauty, sass, loquacious statements, funny perspectives, stink face perspectives, that’s well worth attending. I am a genuine fan of people — who I perceive to be #goodpeoples success. I also love the exclusivity of the event, because it keeps it fresh, fun and conversational. – Sab