I Lied. For Good Reason.

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I LIED and told this guy I met,  that I was in Houston, because of a family emergency. But if he was social media astute… he would have looked at my twitter and seen that I was lying :-/ Why did I lie? Let me Explain.

Let’s just call this person V.

Last week, after work I went perusing in this cigar shop — while there I met this gentlemen. We talked and soon after I gave him my  business card, and he’d seen that I do social media marketing and public relations. First words out of his mouth “I want to work with you” … “we should work together.. I need some social media marketing.” I told him that I wasn’t committing, and he kept asking why not? In my mind… it was because we haven’t spoken about the COMPENSATION part!! I’m thinking… my first mistake was I should have asked him, what was his budget during that initial introduction. I didn’t. My mistake.

We set up a time to meet again that coming Friday to talk business.. towards the end of the meeting  he said “…well when I get a budget after this meeting with Maserati ” I left the meeting annoyed. WHY?

  • He kept name dropping (2x he said “.. My ex-wife is a DOCTOR.”)
  • He kept attesting to know a lot of people in Dallas (you shouldn’t have to tell me.. I should just see it… right?)
  • While he said he knew people.. he kept asserting himself to people that walked in… NOT ONE came up to him
  • He just assumed I would do this for free (Why? Because I’m a woman, or is it because I was nice) Would he ask his potential business partners to work for him for FREE99
  • His car was absolutely deplorable and nasty (I thought men loved their cars, and took care of the inside of them regardless of what kind of car it was) This spoke VOLUMES!!
  • He was flirting with me — instead of it being about business.  That was such a turn off!

He dropped me off at my car after we left, and on my way home I kept thinking about our conversation at the cigar bar. Why would I work for him pro bono? I’m open other pro bono opp’s… if it’s the right opportunity… this was not one of them. All I could think of was he was full of shit, and I didn’t want to work for any one whose only reciprocity was ” I know a lot of people in Dallas and I can introduce you.”

Was I wrong? Should I just give this arse a call? Why did I lie, because he set the precedent for the business relationship that made me uncomfortable, and I was just threw! And quite frankly I was insulted that he thought he could get over, because I am new to Dallas.

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Believe In Yourself… #Motivation

Hello Monday

1. Believe in yourself.
2. Take advantage of every opportunity.
3. Use the power of spoken and written language to effect positive  change for yourself and society. – Frederick Douglas

I have my days… I think today is one of those days; where I feel unmotivated, but for some reason I am pressing forward to reach my goal. I need your help in motivation today friends. :-\ – Sab

{RELATED ARTICLE: How to Make Yourself Work When You Just Don’t Want To}

Road Trip! #CLTtoDFW #NewBeginnings

I have been out-of-pocket since Oct 24th.

I am still tired and fatigued, I feel like I’m being lazy, but I am forcing myself to get up and do-what-I-do. I have interviews this week — and I am butt tired. My silly- over-confident-self wanted to do this by myself (my father asked, my big sis asked to do the drive with) BUT NOOOOO…. I was so confident that I could do this by myself — and I did; however, my body is still regretting it. Click here to TrackMyTour! — this was more for safety so that my family knew where I was, should something have happened. I prayed before I left and during… I am so glad God had my back. 🙂

I did stop at a motel to rest — I felt like a kid trying to fight its sleep, and I was freaking out and crying. But after I got my rejuvenated rest — I was all good to go and apologizing for crying…lol My Charlotte friend Joe was awesome keeping me focused on the phone.

I didn’t put out a PSA on FB or Twitter regarding my whereabouts or my move, b/c that’s not me.

Thanks for rocking with me!

10 Rules for Brilliant Women …and Men

Tara Sophia Mohr’s 10 Rules for Brilliant Women ( via @tarasophia )

  1. Make a pact — Promise yourself to be “in it” for the long haul, as your own supportive best friend every step of the way.
  2. Imagine it – Envision your dream; that’s the beginning of having it.
  3. Gasp – Start doing things that make you gasp for breath! Get your adrenalin flowing and learn how conquerable your fears really are.
  4. Get a thick skin – If you take risks, sometimes you’ll get a standing ovation, sometimes people will throw tomatoes. Get used to wins and losses. Work on letting go and needing to be liked — needing to be known universally as a nice person.
  5. Be an arrogant idiot – “No, please. I know you won’t” says Mohr, “because you never could, but you can afford to move more in that direction.”
  6. Question the voice that says, “I’m not ready yet.”  Your idea might not be “perfect” yet, but jump in the sandbox now and find out just how ready you are.
  7. Don’t wait for your Oscar – Don’t wait to be praised, anointed or validated. Don’t wait for someone to give you permission to lead. No one is going to discover you. Well, paradoxically, they will, but only when you take the lead. Share your voice and do things that scare you.
  8. Filter advice — Most brilliant women are humble and open to guidance. Interpret feedback carefully. Test advice and evaluate the results, rather than following it wholly.
  9. Recover and restore – You’re going to be stretching out of your comfort zone, so regularly do things that make you feel safe, cozy and restored. When your tank runs low, stop, recover, restore.
  10. Let other women know they’re brilliant – Call them into greater leadership and action. Watch out for that subtle thought: “Just because I had to struggle and suffer on my way up, they should have to, too”.

       Clear a path by walking it, boldly.