Every race has its stereotypes. And we’re all aware of the stereotypes directed at black women. There are stereotypes that depict us all as ghetto, loud, argumentative, bitter, etc. I don’t like to be stereotyped-especially negative stereotypes likes the ones I’ve listed below. That’s why, as a black woman, I’m very mindful of my words and actions. NOTE: This story appeared on Madamnoire.com, I (Sabrina) did not write this post, but I agree with it — hence why I posted it on my personal blog.
How to end it: Smile- Black women are often stereotypes as being angry. And sometimes many of us do walk around with scowls on our faces. And this, for some people, confirms their suspicions about us being angry and bitter. But combating this myth doesn’t take much. In fact, one simple and highly effective way of dispelling this myth is by smiling. Smiling instantly makes you and the people around you more comfortable.
Be Less Defensive- Yes, life can be unfair and black women are sometimes disrespected. Some Black women try to counteract this by being overly aggressive with everyone they interact with. I don’t think it’s necessary- and there are better ways to handle people than by trying to dominate them. Furthermore, not everyone is out to take advantage of and/or disrespect you. Don’t make it your life’s mission to “check” everyone that crosses your path.
How to end it: Listen- My friend’s grandfather used to say,“Only a fool got something to say about everything.” And I completely agree.
Stereotype: Always on CP Time
How to end it: Be on time. We may joke about it among ourselves, but operating under CP Time can damage your personal and professional reputation
How to end it: Be mindful of your environment. It’s not cute to be the co-worker that talks like they’re at their girlfriend’s house, when they’re at work. While a certain tone and speech is appropriate for certain settings- it may not be for another. Be a black woman who’s mindful of your environment and the people around you.
How to end it: Be a well-rounded woman. I think it’s important to be a well-rounded black woman, because you’ll be the type of woman that can hold a conversation in various circles. If you’re the type of woman that loves a Lil’ Wayne song, also be the type of woman that can name the three branches of government
Stereotype: Black women are hoes
How to end it: Dress like a lady. As Black women (and women in general), we can’t dress “loose,” and then get mad if we’re objectified by men and labeled as over-sexed. In order to get respect, we should act and look like you’re worthy of respect.
How to end it: Don’t model ignorance. Media has definitely helped to perpetuate a perception of black women. And while it’s fun to enjoy some of the television drama and antics on shows like “The Real Housewives of Atlanta”, realize that the goal is purely entertainment. Don’t use some behaviors (and you know what I’m talking about) that you see on shows like RHOA as models for personal etiquette.
How to end it: Be a woman of substance. Occupations like “professional gold-digger” shouldn’t be on your list of aspirations. Be the type of women that works for, and deserves what she has.
Stereotype: Unwed, baby-factories
How to end it: Make it a priority to establish a relationship before making a baby. Seventy-percent of black children are being born to unwed, single black mothers. Being a single mother is hard. Stability (having both parents actively involved) is important in raising a child, and phrases like “baby daddy” and “baby momma” make light of this issue and glorify a dysfunction in the black community.